Just Say "No" to Food Pushers!

It's that time of year when food pushers come out of the woodwork! It can feel like everyone is hounding you to try their holiday food creations, and you might be finding it difficult to withstand the pressure. Let's start by understanding why people push food, which can give us some clues about how to deal with food pushers:

Cultural norms and traditions: In many cultures, providing food is an essential aspect of hospitality. Declining food or not eating 'enough' can make the host feel as though they haven’t properly fulfilled their role.

Insecurity or validation: Some people might push food on you because, if you are also eating, it makes them feel better about what they’re eating. 

Many people find it helpful to have specific responses prepared when food pushers arrive on the scene. Here is a list of phrases you might use:

• "No, thank you, I'm good for now."

• "I appreciate the offer, but I'll have to pass this time."

• “I am already full, but I would love to take some home!”

• "Not right now, but thanks for offering!"

• "It looks delicious, but I don't want to overdo it."

• "You know I love your cooking, but I'm full."

• "I've had plenty, thank you."

• "I need to save room for later!"

• "That was a big meal and I can't eat another bite!"

• "It looks delicious - you should definitely enjoy it!"

• "You're such a good cook, but I can't eat any more right now."

• "You go ahead, I'm sure it's great. I've just had enough."

• "I'm sure it's tasty, but I'm full right now."

And remember: It's okay to simply say "no" when someone is pushing food your way - you don't owe anyone an explanation for your choices!